Non-loving behaviours stem from non-loving and limiting beliefs and thoughts that cause us pain and keep us at a distance from others. They cause us to be intolerant, impatient, unkind and judgmental because that's how we are with ourselves. If you doubt this statement then think back of the last time - half an hour ago? - where you beat yourself up for not measuring up, for being stupid, for messing up - again - and for just not being good enough.