If I've been hurt in the past, I really need to begin to cope with that feeling before I can love someone else. I may feel that things i did in the past will make i unlovable, or that i have too many problems to be lovable. Maybe i feel that because my past relationships failed. But this is not the case and i should never feel for a moment that what has happened to me before will keep me from being happy now. Accept the things that happened to me ,forgive, and move on.