As the saying goes “you have to teach others how to behave with you”, and that’s exactly what you have to do in a relationship too – educate her to behave in a way that makes you feel happy and satisfied, rather than accepting behavior that makes you feel uncomfortable and frustrated.
And that’s what she should do too, she should let you know any time she does not like something in your behavior. This way you’ll both know each other’s boundaries and you’ll make sure to respect them.