Based on the information I would say you should choose neither of these guys as one you do not love and the other is possessive. You should find a third guy guy#3 that you love and who is not possessive and if you come from a family in which your father was abusive to your mother than you may have an involuntary desire for an abusive husband and should probably seek a psychiatrist to learn how to resist the craving for an abusive guy and how to tell the difference between a guy you love because he is violent and a guy you love because he is the right guy