Motherly love by its very nature is unconditional. Mother loves the newborn infant because it is her child has fulfilled any specific condition, or lived up to any specific expectations. Unconditional love corresponds to one of the deepest longings, not inly of the child, but also of every human being. On the other hand, to be loved because of one's merit or because one deserves it, alwats leaves doubt and there is always a fear that love could disappear. Furthermore deserved love easily leaves a bitter feeling that one is not loved for himself but is loved only because he pleases, and that he is not loved at all but used. No wonder that we cling to the longing for motherly love, as children and also as adults.