Behavioural rules for Farangs (western foreigners)
- Generals dealing with Thais
For us western visitors it is almost impossible to behave correctly in Thailand. But as Thais are extremely polite people and in addition know that for non-Thais it is very difficult to apply to their own behavioural rules against Farangs necessarily tolerance is applied. Many of our "mistakes” are forgiven but we should always take care on also in Thailand to keep with our western courtesy rules – by this almost all "put one’s foot in it” can be avoided. Should it however happen often a smile is enough to excuse the faux pas.
In all cases everything should be avoided that could make the opponent loosing his face. Thus nobody should be shown up in front of others or being criticised to hard. You eventually risk an act of revenge of the one shown up. Most notably against drunk this must be absolutely avoided – to provoke drunk Thai males by improper behaviour can be perilous!
- Reception in Thailand
As the manners of Thais among each other are only very difficult to understand for us Westerns we would like to insistently point out here that the Wai should be avoided when ever possible! (See also 'Thailand Information', ' ... the correct Wai ...'). Only against Thai monks it is applicable here it is used as described on page ' ... the correct Wai ...', but is not answered by the monks.
Apart from this applies: Who knows the "rules” can use it without putting oneself or the opponent in difficulties.
Generally the Wai is not expected from Farangs so that it is mostly indisposed. Particularly a Thai is forced to also answers with a Wai even though he was about to shake hands. Salutation with a smile and/or eventually shaking hands is perfectly enough.
If yourself is welcomed with a Wai you should answer the same way i.e. thumbs at the same height or a slightly deeper Wai. Exceptions are people having a clearly higher social status here the Wai can be made higher. In praxis this will rather not happen because the less important always welcomes the more important first. Against clearly lower ranking people or children a smile and a nod is enough of reaction.
Here you find information about the correct Wai: 'Thailand Information', ' ... the correct Wai ...'.
- Manners in Thai Temples
Before entering a Thai temple shoes should be taken off. Also is correct behaviour and proper clothes basic requirement for visiting a temple in Thailand. So are flip-flops, shorts and sleeveless shirts indisposed!
When sitting in Thai temples the legs are never stretched out best is to sit on the knees.
- Contact with Thai Monks
Thai monks usually are very open and secular it is not rare to see them e.g. smoking in public. It is also quite likely that men are addressed by monks.
Women must not touch neither a monk or their robe (what also applies outside the Thai temples). Else the monks have to undergo a pedestrian cleaning ritual.
Do women give something to a monks they have to either put it on the floor or give it to a man first handing it then over to the monk.
- Visiting Thais
When entering a private apartment you should as well as in Thai temples take off your shoes and don’t step on threshold as there live according to the Thai belief the souls of the deceased.
In Thai houses you usually sit on the floor in doing so the legs are not stretched out (in Thailand it is a major affront to point at somebody with the legs!) Men usually sit in the tailor seat women with angled legs pointing sideways. If men take such sitting position it testifies special respect against the host. Presents do not have to brought along with but is a little something such as fruits, food or little souvenirs very welcome. If presents are handed over they usually are not opened immediately to save on the one hand the guest’s blushes and on the other hand to not appear as greedy.
Should you be invited to a party or a celebration the wardrobe should adapt to the circumstances. Often Thai friends can give a hint as the host will always say that it is up to yourself. To take this too literally can by all means lead to embarrassments.
To weddings or funerals an envelope with money should be handed over helping to lower the cost. Here as well friends can give a hint regarding the amount.
By the way women should generally wear a bra in Thailand!
- In Thai Restaurants
When visiting a restaurant together it is custom that the party having the highest social status takes care on the bill for all attendees or instructs someone else to do. It is also quite common that you are asked for your income if the Thais cannot judge on your status. As in normal case we have a higher income – what in turn presumes a good Karma - nobody will have a problem with the Farang taking care on the bill ...
Also is generosity generally welcome so that "jumping the queue” is loved to be seen when it is about to pay. When you are inviting for a meal it is likely to happen that the invited perso