. PARENTS ARE TOO STRICT. Parents who have rules that are much stricter than the norm
for Christian families in their community will naturally bring a sense of unfairness to the
child or teen who is correct in protesting. When in doubt, see a professional Christian
family counselor to help you come up with rules, chores and consequences that are within a
normal range.
3. PARENTS ARE TOO LENIENT. King Solomon said that a child left to himself (to do
whatever he wants to do) will end up bringing his mother to shame. If you spare the rod of
discipline, Solomon said, you will spoil your child. We are born with a sinful nature, but love
and discipline help us grow out of it sufficiently to live a normal Christian life. You will
never be perfect and neither will your child. But you and your child can both become
mature Christians.
4. PARENTS ARE INCONSISTENT. Often one parent is too strict and the other too lenient.
Children will do just fine in a home that is a little bit too strict or a little bit too lenient, but
will not do fine in a home where parents do not provide a united front. Parents can argue
peaceably with each other in front of the kids about other things, to teach them how to
resolve conflicts when they get married some day, but never argue about discipline in front
of them. Split the difference in your rules and provide a united front, or see a professional
Christian family counselor to help you decide what would be reasonable.
5. PARENTS EXPECT THEIR CHILDREN TO GO BY RULES THE PARENTS THEMSELVES DO
NOT OBEY. Children do as we do much more than they do what we say. If you don’t want
your children to be addicted to drugs or alcohol, don’t abuse alcohol or drugs yourself,
including abusing prescription drugs. If you want them to be kind, unselfish and helpful to
others, model that yourself.
. PARENTS ARE TOO STRICT. Parents who have rules that are much stricter than the norm
for Christian families in their community will naturally bring a sense of unfairness to the
child or teen who is correct in protesting. When in doubt, see a professional Christian
family counselor to help you come up with rules, chores and consequences that are within a
normal range.
3. PARENTS ARE TOO LENIENT. King Solomon said that a child left to himself (to do
whatever he wants to do) will end up bringing his mother to shame. If you spare the rod of
discipline, Solomon said, you will spoil your child. We are born with a sinful nature, but love
and discipline help us grow out of it sufficiently to live a normal Christian life. You will
never be perfect and neither will your child. But you and your child can both become
mature Christians.
4. PARENTS ARE INCONSISTENT. Often one parent is too strict and the other too lenient.
Children will do just fine in a home that is a little bit too strict or a little bit too lenient, but
will not do fine in a home where parents do not provide a united front. Parents can argue
peaceably with each other in front of the kids about other things, to teach them how to
resolve conflicts when they get married some day, but never argue about discipline in front
of them. Split the difference in your rules and provide a united front, or see a professional
Christian family counselor to help you decide what would be reasonable.
5. PARENTS EXPECT THEIR CHILDREN TO GO BY RULES THE PARENTS THEMSELVES DO
NOT OBEY. Children do as we do much more than they do what we say. If you don’t want
your children to be addicted to drugs or alcohol, don’t abuse alcohol or drugs yourself,
including abusing prescription drugs. If you want them to be kind, unselfish and helpful to
others, model that yourself.
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