The Good Men Project recently published a piece by Paul Hudson titled 10 Signs You’re Dating A Woman, Not A Girl. At first I found the article amusing, but at first I looked at them as guidelines, as a spectrum, not as a pile of absolutes. When I read the article a second time, I became mildly offended. The third time, I was close to fuming. I appreciate Paul’s efforts to begin a dialogue—it’s important for both sexes to have a better understanding of what they want in a mate—but I feel Paul’s list traps both sexes in an unhealthy gender dichotomy that does little to foster better understanding between partners. His use of the words “girl” and “woman” further perpetuates negative stereotypes. Healthy relationships begin to take shape when people try to understand each other as individuals, outside the confines of these stereotypes. - See more at: http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/cc-throw-away-your-old-dating-checklists/#sthash.rDko7WaG.yP6HaDbS.dpuf