Van Breemen (1975) presented religious celibacy as "existential unmarriage-ability." God in Jesus of Nazareth takes possession of our selves so completely that we cannot share that self with anybody else in exclusivity as marriage demands. As van Breemen put it, it is not that we have lost something, but we have found Someone. "In its final analysis, celibacy means being captured by Christ. He is our life (Col 3:4), fascinating us so completely that eventually we become unmarriageable. In its deepest sense, this is what celibacy means" (p. 841).