Rules of roommate etiquette
Whether you're a college student or a young adult who needs a roommate for economic reasons, you'll have a much better experience if you follow some basic rules of etiquette.
Establish some basic rules
The first thing you should do with your new roommate is to sit down and establish a short list of rules. List the most important things that each of you expects. Include how to divide the bills, who pay for what, policies regarding guests, cleaning schedule, and anything else you can think of.
Don't borrow without asking
Your roommate might have the cutest top that hasn't been worn in ages, but that doesn't give you the right to wear it without asking. She might be saving it for a special occasion. Ask permission frist, and always honor her wishes. If she gives you permission, and you spill something on it, pay to have it professionally cleaned. If that doesn't work, replace the item.
Respect the other person's space
Everyone has a need for some personal space, regardless of how outgoing she is, so avoid intruding on the other person's.
Be respectful when inviting guests
Whether you are having someone over for a dinner party or an overnight stay, it's always a good idea to discuss this with your roommate. Unless you are co-hosting a party or other event, never expect your roommate to share in the entertainment or expenses.
Clean up your own messes
If your make a mess, clean it up. Don't expect your roommate to help clean up after a party, unless the two of you cohosted it. You also should't leave the mess for the next day because the other person shouldn't have to face dirty dishes and crumbs when she gets up in the morning. If you share a bathroom, keep your personal belongings neat and in order.
11. Deal with problems quickly
As soon as you notice a problem, let your roommate know that it's time to have a talk. Go into the discussion with your point in a matter-of-fact way and avoid flinging accusations. Never try to deal with the situation with the silent treatment, passive-aggressive behavior, or yelling. Most problems can be worked through, but if it's something you can't agree on, you might want to consider going your separate ways.