I give a decent amount of respect to everybody because they didn't wrong me or do anything bad. And as they earn it, I give them a little more respect and I am more willing to do them favors such as lending them money. If that person crosses me, I will lose a little respect for them. Then it starts from square one again and they have to prove that they are worthy. I can only do this with one person so many times because once I totally lose respect for somebody, they have shown me that it is not worth my while to reconcile with them.
It's kind of like the two best friends that get in a fight and refuse to speak to each other. Both are waiting for the other person to speak first which means that neither one of them will speak first and nothing will get resolved. The other person might be waiting for your nephew to respect him or her first and since that won't happen, neither will receive any respect.