Conflict Techniques
Conflict techniques
Start with a positive statement. “I enjoy our friendship.”
Explain the issue or situation. I’m hurt that you talk behind my back”
Finish with a positive statement. “I want to continue our friendship.”
TIPS FOR CONFLICT MANAGEMENT
Pay attention to the conflict and repeat what the other person says
Once you identify the issue stay with it without being sidetracked by past hurts/problems
Choose to best time and place to confront the conflict
Communicate your emotions and listen to other people
Be willing to see another person’s point of view.
Show respect in order to get back respect
If the other person is angry be respectful anyway
Stay calm and control your voice
Control your words
Value your own safety
-if the other person is out of control and
dangerous you need to walk away from the
situation.
AVOIDING CONFLICT
Minor or temporary conflict-ADAPT
ex. Your friend is late so you adapt instead of trying to change him
AVOID CIRCUMSTANCES THAT CAUSE CONFLICT
-see the positive aspect of a situation
-change the subject
-don’t be easily irritated
-defuse the situation (“let’s give ourselves some time to think”)
EXAMINE YOUR ATTITUDES
People with low self-esteem are defensive and very sensitive to the words of others.
People with high personal standards expect too much from others.
If you experience too much conflict in relationships look for help
CONFLICT MEDIATION
Mediation –when a third, unbiased party helps to settle differences
Peer mediation-trained students help other students settle conflict
Ex. The case of Jib and Dow-resentment because they were late with the research project. Dow blames Jib for being late with the first part. Jib says he should have started his own part of research without waiting. How would you mediate?