Be close to your children so that they know that you love them and they can trust in you, but never let them take you for granted or disrespect you. I didn't realize how I took my parents for granted until I turned about 22. Don't be too strict on them either. Every boy & girl wants to be loved, even by their friends, so let them go to school dances and buy them certain things you know they're dying for. This builts confidence in them and it will help them survive the harsh world out there.