6. Decide What You Want Out Of The Conversation
In situations where things have gotten really bad (think screaming and fighting), a vague conversation may seem disingenuous. If you feel like you need to say more, decide what you are trying to get out of it. Are you trying to help them by giving them a little bit of feedback that they can use for the future? Are you trying to rehash what’s happened and move on for yourself? Are you trying to get the last word? If it’s a situation that’s been really really tough, you should acknowledge it to some extent. Bonior suggests saying something along the lines of, “I know we’ve had our ups and downs, I’m just in a place where I have to move on.”