You have to take the position that you have always had the power to make it different, to get it right, to produce the desired result. For whatever
Reason ignorance, lack of awareness, fear, needing to be right, the need to
feel safe you chose not to exercise that power. Who knows why? It doesn’t
matter. The past is the past. All that matters now is that from this point forward you choose that’s right, it’s a choice you choose to act as if (that’s all that’s required to act as if ) you are 100% responsible for everything that does or doesn’t happen to you.