As leaders, we must decide who we want to be and then align our lives so we become just that.9 This is not easy because the person you do not want to be is the person you will most naturally become if left to your own devices. Jesus said: “If you try to hang on to your life, you will lose it. But if you give up your life for my sake, you will save it” (Matthew 16:25). Self-leaders must die to the natural tendencies inside them to become who God is calling them to be.10 God is calling us to become inside-out leaders — leaders who are defined more by who we are on the inside than by who we seem to be on the outside.