ฉันรักการแปล“My two lovely daughters,
I wish I had the words to make you feel better. I wish I didn’t have the accident and you didn’t have to be at my funeral. I wish so many things were different but they are not.
Most dads and daughters have decades to chat during dinners, during drives to school or to the city. We don’t have that time. I won’t be able to drop you off on your first day at the next school, pick you up after your first date, bring you to your dance competition, hold you when your heart hurts or cheer when you graduate.
But I want to try to give you some life advice. I hope it gives you some comfort. I hope your life is long, fulfilled and happy.
School Everyone will say it’s vital to work hard at school. Hopefully you’ll always do your best. I did well at school but did it do me much good in life? It’s not the only thing in life. School work is important, but make sure you have fun too.
Boys At the moment you don’t make much distinction between girls and boys and see all children as friends. That’s typical of your sweet nature. But Bed and Naam, that will change as you get older. You might see them as stinky and annoying classmates. But, in the future, you’ll realize they can be quite nice.
You’ll have boyfriends when you’re older – MUCH older hopefully! – and I won’t be here to meet them and ask them about their intentions. So here’s some advice from your father. It’s very hard to describe how it feels to really be in love. You might remember seeing me and your mum laughing together and cuddling together; that’s what real love looks like. Have fun finding it.
Always choose boys with gentlemanly values, manners and respect. Imagine them having tea and a chat with our family around our table and if you think they’ll fit in, you have found a decent young man.
Sadly, you will have your heart broken one day. It hurts like hell and will feel like the end of the world. But you will get over it. And even if a romance doesn’t work out, try to be kind. Boys have feelings too. Lastly, if you have a special boy pal who is always there for you when boyfriends come and go, don’t take him for granted. Don’t overlook him. He might really care for you.
Marriage I often dreamt about your wedding day and imagined filling up with tears as I see you sitting with the monks and say yes. I won’t be able to be there my daughters. Sorry sweethearts. But I will be looking over your shoulder on that day, proud and happy you have found a special someone to love you and care for you.
I’ll be there on your wedding day in spirit.
Mummy You and your mum will argue at times, especially when you’re a teenager. Please remember she adores you and wants the best for you. Give Mummy a hug when she is feeling sad and help each other get through any horrible times when I am gone. When you’re a teenager you might think your friends are right and your mum is wrong. But she has to make hard decisions for you and, more than any friend you’ll ever have, has your interests at heart. Treat her well.
Family Nothing is more important than family and the values they give us. Nothing.
Friends Treat people as they treat you. Be nice to anyone who helps you, always. Bullying is horrible – never become one.
Career You both maybe want to be dancers or super stars… You might later realize that’s not possible. But so many things ARE possible for you, darlings. Do what makes you happy and that you enjoy. If you do so, life suddenly becomes much, much easier.
You may need to start a few different careers to find the one you enjoy, but so be it. One life, one chance.
Manners Always remember your polite words like ‘please’ and ‘thank-you’. The reason Mummy and I drum manners into you is because they will help you throughout your life. Always be courteous, especially to elders. Never try to hurt people with words. Remember to write thank-you letters for gifts of kindness as it is always nice to act with grace and gratitude.
Be happy You never laugh at 50%: you always laugh at 100%. Your laugh takes over your whole body and is highly infectious. I hope you never lose that. There is no point in asking you not to be sad after I am gone. I know you will be, princesses. And I wish I could be there to wrap my arms around you and snuggle you until you smile again. You can feel sad and use it as a driving force throughout your life. Or you can just be sad, but always try to see the positive light.
Be charitable Please give time to charities. Doing good deeds uplifts the soul. Never forget there are people worse off than you who you can help.
Remember a good life motto “Always keep trying”. Remember the saying “giving up is for losers”. I failed a number of times in my life but never gave up. Bed, Naam, never give up.
Believe in yourself In life, many people will say you cannot do things. You make up your mind. Can you? Do you want to? Big challenges involve risks so make smart choices. Those who told me I couldn’t do certain things didn’t want me to do them