A challenge that an au pair might encounter or experience while caring for children in late childhood often is related to boundaries. For teenagers, the importance of boundaries is critical and an au pair can help to establish appropriate standards. For example, a teenager should have an appropriate level of autonomy – they should be able to do things and make decisions on their own. But it is also important to stay within the family rules. An au pair needs to understand the family dynamic and house rules.
What’s important to remember?
Do
Check in when child seems sad or distant
Ask “how was your day?”
Speak up if you see a problem
Encourage open communication
Honor their independence
Do not
Agree to keep secrets
Allow disrespect
Hesitate to talk to parents
Teenagers are learning about self-image. They are figuring out who they are and how to identify with themselves and their world. At the same time, life as a teenager is all about change. This includes body changes and changes in hormonal patterns. The result can be a feeling of shame in their appearance and feeling self-conscious around their peers. For example, eating disorders are most common in adolescents. If you notice signs of this type of behavior, or you have concerns, inform your host parents right away.