Assertive behavior is:
* Standing up for one's rights no matter what the circumstance.
* Correcting the situation when one's rights are being violated.
* Seeking respect and understanding for one's feelings about a particular situation or circumstance.
* Interacting in a mature manner with those found to be offensive, defensive, aggressive, hostile, blaming, attacking or otherwise unreceptive.
* Direct, upfront--not defensive or manipulative--behavior. Those using assertive behavior confront problems, disagreement, or personal discomforts head-on, and their intent is unmistakable to others.
* Verbal "I" statements, where individuals tell others how they feel about a situation, circumstance or the behavior of others.
* Taking the risk of being misunderstood as being aggressive, abrasive or attacking.
* Being able to protect one's rights while protecting and respecting the rights of others.
* Risk-taking behavior that is not ruled by fear of rejection or disapproval, but is directed by the rational belief that "I deserve to stand up for my rights."
* Rational thinking and the self-affirmation of personal worth, respect and rights.
* A healthy style in which to conduct interpersonal relationships.
* Finding a "win-win" solution in handling problems between two individuals.
The "you win and I lose" solution is a passive solution where one individual gives up his rights to another. The "you lose and I win" solution is an aggressive solution where one individual ignores the rights of another in order to get his way. The "you lose and I lose" solution is a total passive solution where both individuals give up their rights. A healthy resolution is impossible. The "you win and I win" solution is an assertive solution where the rights of both parties are recognized, respected and utilized in reaching a healthy compromise.