Since we cannot avoid some kind of attachment to others, the question becomes, “Are
we engaging in healthy or unhealthy attachment?” What is unhealthy in psychological
terms is insecure attachment, for it leads either to fear of close personal contact or else to
obsession with it. Interestingly, people growing up with secure attachment are more
trusting, which makes them much less likely to cling to others. Maybe we could call that
“nonattached attachment.”