1.Many of us grow up believing that intelligent people should have an opinion about absolutely everything. ‘’This is good, this is outrageous.’’ Newspapers express opinions, politicians have opinions, current affairs shows have opinions ,next door neighbors have opinions ‘’be concerned about this ‘’ and ‘’be outraged about that.’’
2. You don’t always have to have an opinion. Sometimes it is appropriate to have no opinion at all . why not just let people be? When your neighbor says, ‘’don’t you think Frank should
get a job ?’’You may like to say,’’ I think Frank should do what he want.’’ When she says, ‘’Isn’t it terrible that Frank’s wife is so overweight ? you say to yourself, ‘’ Perhaps she’s learning about being fat.’’
3. Sometimes, of course ,it’s necessary to pass opinions or make an assessment of people e.g. ‘’Does my secretary produce results?’’ ‘’ Is my accountant doing his job?’’ But there are many times when it’s unproductive to pass judgment.
4. Try this experiment. Spend a week not judging anything or anybody. When next you meet someone who talks a lot, or spends a lot or doesn’t work, mentally say to yourself, ‘’ I give you the space to experience life as you choose. It is not for me to judge you.’’ Life becomes a lot more serene.
5. A ‘’non-judgmental’’ attitude dose nit mean that you have to ‘’like’’ everybody, or you don’t have preferences - it means that you adopt an attitude where you are at peace with those around you.
6. There will be times when you choose not to be in another’s company, but this can stem more from attitude of what feels right for you rather than from condemnation of other people’s differences.
1.Many of us grow up believing that intelligent people should have an opinion about absolutely everything. ‘’This is good, this is outrageous.’’ Newspapers express opinions, politicians have opinions, current affairs shows have opinions ,next door neighbors have opinions ‘’be concerned about this ‘’ and ‘’be outraged about that.’’
2. You don’t always have to have an opinion. Sometimes it is appropriate to have no opinion at all . why not just let people be? When your neighbor says, ‘’don’t you think Frank should
get a job ?’’You may like to say,’’ I think Frank should do what he want.’’ When she says, ‘’Isn’t it terrible that Frank’s wife is so overweight ? you say to yourself, ‘’ Perhaps she’s learning about being fat.’’
3. Sometimes, of course ,it’s necessary to pass opinions or make an assessment of people e.g. ‘’Does my secretary produce results?’’ ‘’ Is my accountant doing his job?’’ But there are many times when it’s unproductive to pass judgment.
4. Try this experiment. Spend a week not judging anything or anybody. When next you meet someone who talks a lot, or spends a lot or doesn’t work, mentally say to yourself, ‘’ I give you the space to experience life as you choose. It is not for me to judge you.’’ Life becomes a lot more serene.
5. A ‘’non-judgmental’’ attitude dose nit mean that you have to ‘’like’’ everybody, or you don’t have preferences - it means that you adopt an attitude where you are at peace with those around you.
6. There will be times when you choose not to be in another’s company, but this can stem more from attitude of what feels right for you rather than from condemnation of other people’s differences.
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