Because of these varying laws, decisions related to parenthood are very complex for same-sex couples. For lesbians, the decision as to which woman becomes pregnant has significant legal repercussions in those states with restrictive same-sex marriage and second-parent adoption laws. After a loss, if the couple decides that the other partner will attempt pregnancy instead, there are significant legal ramifications for the woman who has experienced the original loss. Consider, for example, a woman who had been pregnant and expecting to give birth to a baby whom all would recognize as unquestionably hers. After a loss, if the couple decides that the other partner will now try to conceive, this woman will now be supporting her partner through pregnancy instead and may feel relegated to a marginal role. She may not be recognized as the child's parent and may not be allowed to adopt the child. Even where she does have access to second-parent adoption, she will have to subject herself to strangers' judgments as to whether she is an appropriate parent. Her experience of motherhood is changed dramatically, and not simply because she will not carry the baby, give birth, or breastfeed. Lack of legal recognition of her parental role can pose an additional distressing aspect to the already complex situation of grieving a reproductive loss.