If someone is refusing to come live on a video phone or a webcam, he is a SCAMMER. He could be an African pretending to be an American!
The scammers will give excuses and that is reason enough to cut off all contact.
The Romance scammers are known to play act. He will fall sick (‘send money for hospital bills’, he will book flight ticket (‘send money’), he will meet with an accident on the way to airport & miss the flight (‘send more money’), his passport will get stolen (‘send money’)…. It would be a never ending procession of demands to send money.