WHEN A CHILD SAYS “NO” ALL THE TIME
Sometimes it seems like “no” is the only word our child says. He hears
it often from us and sometimes even say it when he mean “yes.”
• For toddlers, saying “no” is a way of expressing independence and is
a normal – if frustrating – developmental stage. Keep the rules simple
and give the toddler choices when you can.
• Instead of asking, “Do you want to put on your coat?” ask, “Do you
want to wear your red coat or your blue sweatshirt?” This helps keep
“no” to a minimum.
• Children need firm limits about important issues like safety – don’t
accept a “no” on an issue like a car seat or holding hands in traffic.
• Remember that it is unreasonable to expect total obedience – do you
really want a robot instead of a child? Give children some control of
their lives, especially in things that affect only them, and then praise
them when they do cooperate.