But a manager hasn't been through the same situation, then it can become difficult.
You have to have the right temperament, but again, it's another personality trait which can work in different forms.
Someone like Roy Keane can be inspired by harsh words from Alex Ferguson.
But different things make different players tick. It's about finding out what's right for the team.
It's a combination of personality and situation - it's a real art. And it worked wonders for Torrance on Sunday!
Ian Maynard is Professor of Sport Psychology at the Centre for Sport and Exercise Science at Sheffield Hallam University