Laughter is the best medicine but if you laugh for no reason, you need medicine
My soul wants to be good, my ego wants to be seen doing good, and my body has desires that neither the soul nor ego understand nor appreciate. My soul, my ego and my body compete for control over me. Sometimes I wake up in the morning wanting to go to work early but hit the snooze button, who do you think won that round?
I am somewhat philosophical, sufficiently intelligent but not smart enough to stay out of the hot water sometimes, generous to a point, considerate and caring, with a positive attitude towards life.
Believe we live in the era of smart phones and lots of dumb people. I’m not dumb, I just think less to avoid all the headaches and I just can not figure out why when you offer someone a sincere compliment on their mustache ... she’s suddenly isn't my friend anymore?
For me respect doesn’t imply a lack of agency or the need for someone else to come riding to the rescue, nor does it carry with it the hope of a reward or brownie points that can eventually be traded in for sex. I am prepared to have an actual relationship, a partnership of equals rather than one of the Defender and the poor Damsel in Distress. Yes I have a leaning towards a rescuer personality but have since managed to set boundaries so as not to be taken advantage of, but I think there is nothing wrong with feeling good about helping others.
If some of the things you say without thinking it through upsets you, you will appreciate some of the things I keep to myself. If you fool me once, shame on you and if you can fool me twice, damn you’re good, and I will strongly desire that you make me a nice dinner, massage my feet, and tell me that you won't do it again.
I don't care where you have been and what you have done in the past unless its acts really horrible to others,
Of course, for anyone that thinks they are championing of the ill person or emotionally troubled, real life inevitably sets in and I know this from past experienced, oh what an idiot i once was, so so easily manipulated. Not any more!
As appealing as the fantasy is, your a person like me that has realise that the reality is that helping someone with emotional or physical trauma or addiction issues is never easy, simple, pretty or terribly glamorous. We all have some problems to deal with but hey if you smile more than frown your on the right path, be up front with your issues that's all I ask of you.
You will appreciate that a relationship Status can be Single; Married; Engaged; Divorced, Separated but honestly your Waiting for a miracle ! I’m still waiting for that day…
You will not try to park as close as you can to the entrance when you go to the gym to work out.
And if you think I am funny? I hope its not every time you look at me.
Your motto isn't "Me first" along with "If you don't do things my way, I am going to punish you by withholding or being totally cold." Who wants emotionally limited people in your life? Not me, neither will you.
You will know that the secret to a success relationship is never try and control a controller nor to be one. You will be a person that understands a friend is there to give you support and provide an emotional safe place where you won't be ridiculed or made to feel less than you are.
You won't need constant attention and have some crisis or major life event that dominates conversations.
If you are not a troll, a grifter, or a manipulator and know how to treat a man well, I am interested in learning more about you.
And if everyone you date is mostly crazy, then it probably means you’re crazy, don't contact me I don't like crazy. Sassy is cool, funny is cool, a little silly can be cool, but crazy no thank you.
Coming to your beautiful country in early next year to attend cooking lessons in Bangkok, hope to find someone on this site before than to see the sights with me and perhaps try some of my cooking, if you dare, sorry I am a learner in the kitchen.
My mantra is borrowed from this snippet of wisdom...
“A loving person lives in a loving world, a hostile person lives in a hostile world. Everyone you meet is your mirror.”
- Ken Keyes, Jr.
Understand what I mean? that's the type of person I am looking for, what are you looking for?