This applies especially to relationships- both to the quest to find Mr or Mrs right and on what happens when you do. Most of us want to fall madly head-over-heels in love. Big chemistry fireworks, butterflies, unbelievable feeling. It's brilliant. It's extreme. But that intensity can't and won't last. You have to go back to reality sometime. You have to get on with your life. No one can live at that intensity, that lofty altitude all the time. Contentment is what you hope for after the elation has worn off and you settle back into a relaxed and happy simplicity. In fact , contentment is the worthier aim, because it lasts.