You may find that your goals and standards get in the way of achieving happiness or sexual satisfaction. From time to time you may rebel and cast away your standards, simply enjoying the available pleasures of the moment.
But later you may feel guilty, believing that you have lowered your standards and settled for less than you should have. These moods can be modified by re-evaluating and perhaps lowering your standards in love, which are probably unrealistically high. By reshaping your short-term goals, you will save yourself endless frustration and guilt.
Coming to terms with the rules by which you play the game of love will allow you to set them up so that you do not have to choose between suffering and breaking them.