6. He Says “I Love You” Before You’ve Decided if You Even Like Him
If this willingly vulnerable phrase has popped out of his mouth to a surprise face from you (that doesn’t have you feeling all kinds of butterflies), it may be too early in the relationship and mean that you’re not ready. “As women we always imagine what it will be like the first time these words are expressed, so when it’s not even close to our timeline we feel very out of control,” says Walsh. If you’re unsure of how you feel, but think you might be on the same page down the road, your job is to reassure him. “Tell him you think you can get to that point with him in the future, but that you’re just not ready yet,” says Walsh. “Then you have to have an inner monologue with yourself at a later date to really configure your feelings and come to a solid understanding of whether or not you think you could get to that point,” she says. But if you’ve been feeling like the relationship has been on the rocks well before he pulled out the big “L” word, it’s only fair to pump the breaks with him and cut your ties loose. “If you’re certain that there’s no future with this person, give him the opportunity to find someone new,”