Basic formula in transforming conflict
The basic formula, empathy for attitudes, non-violence for behavior, and creativity
for the contradictions, are tested basic tools for transforming conflict constructively
and effectively. These can be nurtured and strengthened through organization,
empowerment, consciousness-raising and training.
Empathy involves seeing common bonds, common experiences, shared ties, and
recognizing that there may be some validity and legitimacy in the other party’s goals,
just as there is some validity and legitimacy in our goals. It is therefore important
to first of all identify the contradictions and the root causes that gave rise to the
conflict before we can start thinking of overcoming and transcending violence as the
common challenge or common goal. The common goal is that which unites the parties
involved in the conflict. Seeing our common goals, rather than seeing the other as the
‘enemy’ and seeking its ‘defeat’ or ‘extermination’ is a good step towards transcending
violence.
Empathy, nonviolence and creativity are qualities that can be found in every single
individual human being. They can be promoted through education and up-bringing,
and in many cultures and communities, they grow richly. Many belief systems and
religions endorse and encourage their flourishing. Unfortunately, empathy, nonviolence
and creativity are often some of the first victims of violence and intractable conflicts.
Adversaries, as a rule, don’t see eye-to-eye, so that instead of trying to understand
the perspective of the ‘other,’ one party often dehumanizes, or demonizes the ‘other’,
blaming the conflict and the violence on ‘it’ to legitimize one’s own use of violence.