All children need attention, but there are some who demand it much more forcefully than others. Both with their peers and parents or carers, they will insist they get their way. They readily infuriate other kids by laying down rules that everyone else is supposed to follow the irritation they cause they are quick to lose their temper other children don't fall into with their demands. When parents intervene to set reasonable limits the overly demanding child quickly becomes agitated and angry This exaggerated entitlement may spring from an early experience of being wounded experience that destroy an earlier sense of security and arouses feelings that the child cannot cope with. One trigger might be the birth of a younger brother or the older child feeling neglected or Other potentially wounding experiences include a mother's return to work, moving parents the child being periods in daycare. Each of these could initiate a sense left for long e out loud loss accompanied by an emotional arousal that the child can't handle. The type ld in question is one with a predisposition to react aggressively when it does not receive what it has come to expect. When the child's expectations are not met an initial hurt by a feeling of anger and the child has a Child therapists have a saying: Trust the wisdom of the child. Children temper tantrums for a reason. The a sends important not to take the something different from what it is being given. However, it is at value. The child may be sc g to be bought a new toy, but these explicit demands may only be the beginning of the words, they may conceal as much as they reveal. What the child might really need is neither the toy nor getting his own way, but reassurance. The child may have the deeper and more urgent need to be reassured that it sill has the parents' unconditional love.