Real listening is more than just being quiet while the other person talks. It’s more than being able to parrot back what the other person say, as if your brain were a tape recorder. Real listening implies that you want to understand what the other person is saying and, therefore, what that person thinks, feels and needs. It means putting aside your own ideas and judgment long enough to really hear. This takes effort. It’s easier to listening with only a part of your consciousness while the other part rehearses your own story, develops a brilliant retort, or tunes out because you’ve “heard it before”
Pseudo listening gives the appearance of real listening.