involves accusation or fault-finding. The
object of accusation can be the self, someone else or
something else. Very often a spouse or a child of an
alcoholic heavily blames the alcoholic parent. One of
the couples interviewed repeatedly noted that their
older son was very angry about his father's drinking,
in contrast to his brother who did not want to hear
about it or discuss it. Parents in recovery frequently
worry about the effect of their prior drinking upon
their children's development and blame themselves
for any possible ill effects. As one non-drinking
alcoholic mother said, "I felt more and more useless