You shouldn't put up with an abusive partner. There is never an acceptable excuse for a partner to hurt you with words or actions. You don't have to tolerate any verbal or physical abuse. You should not accept common excuses like"I just had a bad day at work!", I'm under a lot of stress!!", "I'm really sorry. I promise L won't do it again!" You should think carefully before giving a person chance.
You partner should respect your opinions, decisions, morals, and values. He or she should support you and encourage you to reach your goals and dreams.
If you partner has a problem with alcohol or drugs, you had better not believe that you'll be able to change his or her ways.
You ought to have time for yourself, your family, and your friends. Your partner shouldn't be possessive and take up all your time and energy.
If you can't trust your partner, if you think that he/she lies or cheats, or if he/she makes you feel unsafe, then you'd better listen to your instincts.
If you no longer enjoy time together, if you don't respect each other, or if you can't be honest with each other, then it's better to be on your own than in a ad relationship.