9. It's not about whether or not you listen to yourself; it's about what part of yourself you listen to.
Most people find it almost impossible to listen to their instincts because they don't know what they're saying. Or, worse, they've listened to them before and they've been destructively incorrect or short-sighted. That's because at any given time, there will be many different "voices" that drive you to different outcomes. Your immediate instincts may be geared more toward protecting you than expanding you. They could be speaking out of a place of fear. You have to ask yourself: What is the root of this reaction, where does it come from, and what is its outcome, in the long term?