There was a time when it was assumed that the children of divorced parents should be cared for by the mother, with the father being given visiting privileges. This means that both parents must share all decisions about the child's physical and psychological well- being. They must decide together, for example, whether or not the child should be fitted for braces, sent to a private school, or allowed to go camp. Although in some very hostile divorces,such shared decision making can be a source of continual conflict, it is for the most part, a successful way of eliminating a child's anxiety over parental separation.