Each village has its own way of doing things. In Kanye, the groom has to bring the cows for Lebola to the Kgotla. I was able to see the two trailers containing the 8 cows and 1 ram. The normal bride price in Kanye is 8 cows; if the couple has had a child out of wedlock prior to the Lebola goes up to 9 cows (the extra cow paid for “trespassing”). Couples have to announce their wedding 21 days prior to the event. During that time anyone who objects can make that known to the Kgosi. A wedding cannot take place unless both sets of parents agree. In the absence of parents there would be some other family member, grandparents, uncles or aunts, to stand in for parents and give consent. Another difference in Kanye is that the groom is required to build a house for the couple to live in before the wedding can take place.