I'm desperate to become SMBC but not enough $?
lovehappinesspeace2
Last edited 01/22/2016
Hi, I'm super proud of SMBC. this is my tribe. This is where my bliss would be. There is only one problem: I can't afford it. I've been saving like crazy my entire life for a safety net and I've been saving for 2 years and 5 months to become a SMBC and I don't know what to do because I can't afford daycare. I also can't afford donor embryo. I am a survivor of a very deep tragedy involving my family that I don't like to talk about and it destroyed my perfect financial life and left me with very little security. My career is "not lucky"- I found a boss who would back me and then he relocated. My other bosses loved me but had loyalties to others and I didn't find a boss who wanted to keep me enough to fight hard enough for me. When my firm dissolved, I worked part-time (married by then and my ex did not want me to work). I became a SAHM for many years and I'm in a profession that is extremely difficult: no job security, high stress, long hours, mediocre pay. My geographic area is extremely expensive (like parts of coastal CA). I can't move because my child has to stay here per the law (my ex is here). I'm not sure that I have the emotional make-up to use day care because of my own personal history (I wish that I could but I know my limitations). I suffer in silence. My ex has our child for much of the time because I got to be with our son full -time for years: so I'm alone and I'm a terrific mom who should find a way to become a SMBC.