1. Stop looking for someone who’s perfect on paper.
We have this idea of, "I have two Ph.D.s and a law degree so obviously I’m going to marry somebody whose pedigree stands up to that." Or, "I’m of Indian descent, and I have to marry someone else who’s Indian." Or, "I can’t date somebody who’s not into NASCAR." We end up not looking at people as people but as packages. None of that stuff matters in the end. Ending up with somebody who is X inches taller than you isn’t going to make a marriage work.