I’ve spent the better part of my life being a people-pleaser, trying to meet other people’s expectations, trying to keep everyone happy and making sure they like me by censoring who I am at times. But I've realised trying to please others or pretending to be someone I'm not, just means I'm out of sync with my own wants and needs. I'm suppressing who I am even if Im not perfect and may be judged for my choices. I spent years in Australia trying to do the right thing, trying to get on with it and be like everyone else, please everyone by being normal. In the meantime I was sacrificing my own personal freedom to choose the life I want to live.
Always trying to please others is definitely an assured path to stress and failures in life. We have to be free to make our own choices without fear of others judgements interfering with how we live our own lives. Things aren’t all so tangible and sayable as people would usually have us believe, We cannot learn life by hearing about it, We can only understand life by moving within it.
People love to put what their own experiences and beliefs are and apply it as some kind of moral code that everyone should live by. That is your story and I'm happy for you to have whatever opinion you like but don't apply it to anyone's life but your own. I've realised if I keep living life to please others, I'll live half the life that I should. Don't waste time stressing about things that are unimportant ❤️