or for not achieving and
maintaining sobriety. Similarly, family members may
feel shame on behalf of the alcoholic and/or due to
shared membership in an alcoholic family. When the
mother is an alcoholic, she may worry especially
about the effect of her drinking upon homelife and
the children [21]. Shame can take the form of embarrassment
on the part of a spouse of an alcoholic with
regard to what other family members or friends
think: "His family became aware of his drinking, and
they expected me to insist that he stop.