Andrew moved from England to Australia when he was 25 years old;here's what he observed about his behavior with new groups: In Australia l took up surfing and soon found my English accent and mannerisms were a source of ridicule amongst the Aussie" surfers. I quickly adapted my speech patterns and behaviors to fit in so that l could enjoy the surfing. In this case I chose to adapt but this does not mean I choose to fit in to every group, nor should you. People who are extremely high self-monitors can be overly self-conscious and self-judging on the other hand if you are oblivious to the effect of your behaviors, you will run into difficulties