when he's dating you, he will constantly be on guard and watching to discern, "Does she like me for who I am? or for what I can provide?
When a man takes a bitchier, independent woman out to dinner, he's not thinking to himself, "without me, she won't eat. If he picks her up in a $350000 Aston Martin, she will get into the car and say "Thank you for picking me up. It was thoughtful of you to drive so far out of your way." This shows that she appreciates him not a car. This is the woman who will make a man get out of his "me, myself and I" mode and get him thinking in "we" mode.