The fourth sin is being overly controlling. Many of us feel that the reason we're not happy is because, my wife won't tell me how her day went or my husband doesn't know how to be nice to guests, or because my kids don't obey my orders or because the weather isn't as warm as I want it to be or my favorite team didn't win the soccer game or baseball game, and so on. As a result, we end up trying too hard to control other people or to control the outcomes that we want. And this in turn, lowers our happiness levels as we'll see in week four.