If people have high emotional intelligence, they have less friction
charisma has three components: Presence, confidence or power and warmth
Once you do that, once you find that you can experience other people’s suffering,
that reduces your own fear of suffering, and it increases your confidence. That is how compassion creates confidence.
Level five leadership as the most effective form of leadership. Level five leaders have two important qualities, which seem to be paradoxical. These leaders are very ambitious, and at the same time, they are personally very humble.
Now, if you tease out the components of compassion, there are three of them. The first is the affective
component, which is “I care about you.” There’s the cognitive component compassion, which is “I understand you” or “I want to understand you.” And then there’s the motivational component, which is “I want to help you.” Now, if you superimpose the three compassion components with the two levelfive
leadership qualities,you find that that the first two components of compassion — the affective and the cognitive elements — they increase personal humility. The motivational component of compassion increases your ambition for the greater good. That’s why it is obvious that compassion training is necessary for organizations that want to build level five leadership. That is the theory.
kindness and compassion are good qualities But very often in business they are viewed as weaknesses
Kind managers are seen as being weak, soft or at least tolerant of failure, which demotivates
high performers. Such managers are accused of being “too nice.” In contrast, so called “tough managers” who bully or browbeat their subordinates are seen as star performers who know how to crack the whip and get the job done
to be tough and to be kind and compassionate at the same time
The problem with just being tough, when you browbeat and bully people, is that you create at least three costs.
The first is longterm sustainability. When people don’t like working for you, they work only because they have to and if they can leave, they will.
Other costs are less visible. They are quality and commitment If people are not happy, they’re not going to commit. If they’re not going to commit, quality is going to suffer. Then you’re going to have to spend a lot of money on “marketing.” But if you treat your customers well, you won’t lose them in the first place and you won’t have to spend that much on marketing.
less likely to be creative problem solvers.
Why are there so many managers who only know how to bully? I think it’s because the shortterm
gain of bullying is very visible. In the next quarter, if you bully your people, you’re going to get higher numbers. What is lost is in the longterm and it’s not very visible.
opportunity cost of losing commitment, quality and creativity
shortterm gains, then you tend to reward bullies