Because People Will Think I'm a Loser
This is hands-down the most common thing I heard from women. For some reason, looking for men on the Internet is just about the most mortifying thing a woman can do. It smacks of desperation, they believe.
But really, it's just being honest about what you want. When you go to a bar with your friends, wearing your favorite semi-slutty outfit and made up like you're ready for the red carpet, you secretly hope this might be the night you'll meet that certain someone. But that's your little secret. Ostensibly, you're going out with the girls to have fun, not looking for a man.
Believe me, it's better that you don't find him, because the kind of men you're likely to meet in that kind of situation are not the kind of men who will usually turn out to be the love of your life. First, the attraction will be mostly based on looks, since conversation that rises above mindless banter is hard in a bar. Second, you'll probably be somewhat inebriated and not in a position to make the best choices. And finally, the choices you do have will be severely limited by the simple determinants of time, space and location.
Once you admit that there's nothing wrong with actively looking for a man, you'll realize that online dating is the most sensible, time-efficient way to find him. Rather than choosing from the five to 10 single men who happen to stumble into the bar that night, you'll have instant access to hundreds of prospects, with lengthy and detailed profiles describing their background, interests, personality and even sometimes their salary. You think it'll be a bunch of lies? Could be, but don't you think the guy on the next bar stool can lie just as easily?