I think you are a very sweet woman who would make a very good partner for a good man. You are clearly honest and I think you would be a good catch. It is a shame that we live so far apart. The trouble with dating sites is they become like a market place. People look at other people like they are buying fruit or meat. They say to themselves is this one prettier than that one? Does this one have nicer looking breasts? Does this one have too many children? People never get a chance to know each other if they live long distance and some people like to get a commitment right away or ask people to do things that are not healthy to building a relationship. I do understand though that you need a base line to begin talking seriousl with someone .