let us suppose that she imagines this person to be her marriage partner. in her projected future she now sees a haven of bliss in which she is treasured and understood and in which she receives gratification of the need that her parents left largely unsatisfied. eventually she meets someone who she sees as a potential marriage partner and she seizes the opportunity to escape from her family. as dicks (1967) has pointed out, the more emotionally deprived the background from which she comes, the more intense her needs and the greater is her tendency to idealise her future husband. needless to say the marriage relationship cannot live up to her expectations. the greater her idealisation, the greater her sense of disillusion when her partner fails to match up to what is expected of him