If you have a 7-year-old who recently started throwing a fit every time you make eye contact with her, odds are it's for a reason. The easy, instinctive thing to do is to punish her and be done with it. The more forward-thinking approach also includes sitting down afterward to talk and figuring out the exact reason for the anger(or what I like to call"The Danny Tanner Method," you know, from"Full House"?).It lets them know you'll actually listen to them, which provides a certain stability within a household that children need in order to feel secure.