Some parents even find a way to get along for the sake of the children once they are no longer living together. Once the children are no longer exposed to the ongoing hostility in their living environment, they can benefit tremendously. While they miss living with both parents, ultimately they are much happier when they aren't dealing with adult problems. If parents after a divorce can remain friendly the children will learn that relationships don't have to break down completely. They can be changed into something else. If they see their parents acting maturely at a difficult time they will have more respect for them and they will learn that this is the way you deal with problems in a civil way